Add other club members to your list of friends
On the left hand menu choose Connect then Friends. Then choose Add / Invite friends. Then enter their chess.com username or their email address. When they respond to your friend request then you can do the next step.
Challenge a friend to a game
Hover over Play then choose Live Chess. To the right of (or under) the chessboard in the Play tab, under the orange Play button, click on Play a Friend. A dialog appears. Scroll down and choose the friend. Click on the Time button (10 min) to change it to something like 60 min + 30 sec/move (each) by choosing More under Live (Total time per side). If you see 60 0 30 then press OK. Press Options to play as white or black then Play. When your friend clicks to Accept the challenge, having checked the time and colour, your game begins. Choosing longer time controls makes you think more and improves your chess, as does analysing the game afterwards (see below).
If your friend is not online you can send them a message using Connect - Friends then choose the Speech Bubble beside their username. A green square in a user's picture shows they are on chess.com currently.
View a friend's game in progress
In the Play > Live Chess area in the Tournaments tab, in the bottom half, click on the Friends tab Heads and Shoulders icon. then choose the friend whose game you want to view.
Analyse your game or a friend's game afterwards
First view a game as above or otherwise. Then, below the notation click on the Live Analysis button (not the Analysis (by computer) button, and then on the "+" icon to invite friends, e.g. your opponent.
If anyone sends me similar instructions for lichess.com I will add them to the website.[John Loughran, Mar 2020.]
Continue an adjourned game using Lichess.org
To play from a given position in Lichess choose the TOOLS > Analysis board. Then either play through the game to the desired position or Edit Board from the Hamburger (three lines) Menu icon, bottom right beside play buttons. Then from the same Menu icon choose Continue from here, choose time control and colour, copy the link and email it to your opponent or send a challenge to their username.
How to improve using chess.com
Try Puzzles, tactical problems, unsorted the way they appear in games, or sorted by theme to learn different themes like pins, double attacks (deadly) etc. I try and do a few every day. Try Learn > Lessons or Videos. As a free member there is a limit here. Under Today > News keeps you up to date with world chess news, at the time of writing the FIDE candidates tournament to select a challenger for the World Champion, Magnus Carlsen. There is so much to explore and most of it helps to improve your chess.
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How to submit results for rating
Results of online games for rating should be submitted by both players/parents using the following short form: Submit result for rating
This will dramatically reduce the workload in collating results to send to the ratings officer. Only results of games played at a reasonable time control should be rated e.g. 15m + 1s on chesskid.com or 30 min or more on other sites. Players should really submit no more than three results per night as skittles games should not be rated.
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